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The Fear Of Something New

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The Fear of Something New | Chasing My 20s | Inspiration

Why do we fear starting over with someone new more than we fear continuously starting over with the same person? It seems there would be a peace of some sort in knowing you’re starting with a clean slate vs. constantly wiping at stains from an old one. Should we not fear wasting time and energy with one person who can’t (or won’t) get it right? Do we not fear missing out on someone who gets it right the first time?

I pose these questions because I see so many people say they hate starting over. I agree. Starting over sucks, but does going through the motions not also suck? And, does this repeating cycle not suck even more?

Why subject ourselves to a pain we seemingly anticipate from a person, place or thing just because we don’t want to start over? Why force unhappiness on yourself and others; in your relationships and so on, just for the sake of history and comfortability? It’s saddening. 

Imagine being afraid of something better.

Sounds crazy, doesn’t it?

Pay attention to the signs as they present themselves. Take them for what they are–not for what you want them to be–and get out while you can.

We need to love ourselves more than we love our situations; we should fear losing ourselves more than we fear losing the idea of someone else. Because someone who means us well can’t and won’t be lost.

There is only harm in staying in a mental and emotional space that isn’t nurturing of your needs. There’s no satisfaction in not being able to be your true self or reaching your greatest potential because you fear exploring what else might be out there.

This doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships. This concept easily applies to jobs, friendships, etc.

Embrace the idea of something new and what it can offer you rather than staying in a space that’s comfortable, but doesn’t promote good mental, emotional or spiritual health and growth. We deserve the best and the best exists. You just have to be open and ready to receive it when it comes. 

Don’t fear newness. Look forward to it.

Photo: Guilherme Stecanella.

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